Friday, May 31, 2013

If you want to date someone great, be someone great

I need to start this post on a complete side note.  I have the best friends ever.  I know you might think you have the best friends ever, you don't.  Mine are better.  I won't go into specifics because they know who they are but,  they are the most supportive group of women I've met and I met most of them when I was 18--or younger.  Its our 10 year friendiversary and I am so grateful that I have them in my life.

Back to our regularly scheduled post.  

(1) You should read it because its an incredibly insightful post about dating and relationships
(2) For me it was a lightning bolt without even me realizing it.

These are my favorite lines:
So, instead of worrying about The One, forget about that and be The One You Would Want To Be With. Go running every night, smile at every person you meet, pick up that James Joyce novel you’ve been putting off, start writing again, join a support group to work out your issues, go back to get another degree, help old ladies cross the street, work on forgiving your parents, take Tai Chi to learn to let go, get involved at the local community center and/or take a cooking class. Push yourself to get out and be better; you can’t control who you meet, but you can control the person you are when you meet them. You probably won’t find perfect (and no one wants that, because as Celeste and Jesse Forever shows, perfect is boring). However, you might find something a lot better than what you could have even imagined when you were twelve and making silly lists. You’ll find the thing you didn’t know you were looking for all along 
Yesterday, I realized that I was doing this without consciously trying.  It was a long day, I worked my "regular" job, which included a long trip to Salt Lake, I attended a figure skating club banquet for coaching, and I baked two orders of cupcakes to deliver today.  In a day when I worked all three of my jobs, instead of using the "i'm exhausted" excuse, which was valid I felt like I NEEDED to get out and run.  So I did, at 8:30pm.  That was a huge victory for me, old me would have laid on the couch and then felt bad about not running.  Instead I got out there, had the best run of the week and still got everything done.  

Today was a total disaster, but yesterday, yesterday I nailed it.  I know that I am becoming more like the person I am doing more of what I love--I started my own business, check us out here: and on Facebook.  I volunteer, teach, and play on a softball team.  I am back home where my lifelong friends are and I am super busy.  Now, Mr Right, it's ok if you come along any day now...